Thinking of Tying The Knot? 5 Tips To Make Sure You Stay Together

Did you know that love does NOT conquer all?




You see, often people get married with the idea that their “chemistry”

or undying love for each other will keep them together forever.




However, with almost 50% of marriages ending in divorce these days, it’s

obvious that this isn’t the case. Therefore, it pays to know a few little

secrets before getting married.




Here are 5 tips that help keep couples together long after tying the knot:

Tip #1 - Continue dating

Over the years, people often drift apart or relationships and marriages become

stale because couples fail to do new and special things together. That's why

going on new and refreshing dates is so important. In fact, there is something

about “dating” that creates a sense of magic in a relationship and

can even bring relationships out of a rut. While on a date, you also put more

effort into your appearance, have more uninterrupted time to communicate on

a deeper level and are naturally drawn closer together. Stuck for ideas? Spend

the day at the aquarium, zoo, museum, carnival, bookstore, beach or park.

Tip #2 – Delay is often better

It’s a well-documented statistic that couples who have dated for a year

or longer before marriage have a significantly lower rate of divorce than those

who married after a short dating period. A year of dating gives time for many

emotions to surface and many character traits to be discovered. You may adore

someone in the spring, but despise him or her in the winter. Asking someone

for his or her hand in marriage on the third date isn't romantic. It's gambling.

Tip #3 – Always express your love

Oftentimes, as a relationship matures, partners tend to stop praising each

other because they 'assume' their partner already knows what they're thinking.

When in reality, a day should never go by without you praising your partner.

Compliment them on their cooking, reaffirm that they're the greatest person

in the world or tell them they’re a wonderful role model. If you want

to be loved and romanced by your sweetheart, love and romance them first. When

they're feeling loved, it is much easier to love in return. Are you a super

supporter of what your mate does and says? So do you cheer them on and praise

them constantly? Or do they constantly hear boos or silence?

Tip #4 – Take time to understand your partner

Couples with the most problems are often the ones that say, "I just don't

understand him/her." So let me ask you: How knowledgeable are you about

your mate's profession or the degree they are pursuing? Do you know anything

about his or her family heritage? Are you able to have a meaningful conversation

about her cross-stitch hobby or his interest in rugby? If you are a man, do

you fully understand what women experience during PMS or menopause? You don't

need to be identical, but make an effort to learn about the things that interest

your partner in life and you'll grow closer as a result.

Tip #5 - Answer the BIG questions

Does your partner want kids? Do you both want careers? Do they have a history

of spending their way into debt? Do they go to church?




In my opinion, the biggest reason almost half of marriages end in divorce is

because couples fail to ask each other the right questions BEFORE they get married.

I guess people think they'll be able to change their spouses after marriage

and everything will be better. Wrong. If you fail to sit down and discuss finances,

religion, sex, housing, your future, and other topics in great detail, you could

end up with nothing but argument after argument for the rest of your days.




In the end, if you both have completely different views, desires and goals

in life, there’s no guarantee that chemistry or "I love you’s"

will help you stay together. Make it your utmost priority to understand each

other 'inside-out' BEFORE you take that walk down the aisle.




About the author:




Michael Webb is the author of “1000 Questions For Couples" the most

comprehensive book of questions that all couples should ask before getting married.

Covering lovemaking, religion, careers, money, children & raising them,

household work, personalities, the future and much much more. To learn more,

visit: 1000 Questions

For Couples